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Breaking Free From Overthinking as a Principal

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Episode Summary

Do you overthink everything as a principal? Do you overthink evaluations, discipline issues, dealing with teachers and parents? If that sounds like you, then this episode is for you. 

In this episode we talk about:

-Practical solutions

-What overthinking is

-Common triggers for overthinking

-Negative impacts on your teaching

Resources

The Principal’s Email Detox

Decisive Leadership– Free Workshop

Principal Checklist to Disconnect From School

Behavior Blueprint for Principals

The Principal’s Power Hour Blueprint

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In today’s episode, we’re talking about breaking free from overthinking for principals. That’s coming up next on The Principal’s Handbook.

Welcome back to the podcast! Today’s topic is really important for all educators—not just principals—because overthinking is something many of us struggle with. It can cause stress and steal the joy and excitement from our work in education.

In this episode, I’ll explain what overthinking is, why we do it, how it affects principals, and I’ll share three practical strategies to overcome it.

So, what is overthinking? Overthinking is the habit of analyzing something beyond what’s productive. It’s one thing to reflect or learn from a situation, but if you’re stuck analyzing because you’re stressed or doubting how you handled it, that’s not productive.

Overthinking can show up in many areas of leadership—teacher observations, parent meetings, staff meetings, or even in what you say to teachers. It’s important to recognize your own overthinking patterns.

Why do we overthink? It often comes from a lack of confidence in our professional judgment. When you feel confident in an area, you usually don’t overthink it. For example, I never overthought curriculum decisions because I felt secure in that area. But I sometimes overthought discipline decisions because I wanted to be sure I made the right call.

Overthinking tends to happen in areas where you feel less confident or uncertain. It also shows up a lot if you’re a perfectionist—when your standards are so high that you keep asking, “Is this good enough?” and can’t feel satisfied.

What happens when we overthink? It leads to mental fatigue and brain fog. Think about how many decisions you make daily as a principal—I would come home exhausted mentally. Even now, working remotely, I still feel that mental fog when I’m tired or overworked.

We need all the mental space we can get. Overthinking fills that space unnecessarily and leaves us less clear when we need quick decisions and sharp thinking.

Overthinking also distracts us from being present. You might ruminate on something from the past, like a discipline decision you regret, or worry endlessly about an upcoming meeting. Either way, it takes you out of the moment.

It also erodes your self-trust and confidence. The more you overthink, the less confident you feel, which just fuels more overthinking. It can complicate simple decisions, making situations feel bigger or smaller than they are.

And all this stress from overthinking contributes to burnout in leaders. The more you overthink, the higher your stress and the closer you get to burnout.

Now, here are three practical strategies to overcome overthinking as a principal:

1. Identify the root cause.
Know which areas you tend to overthink. Is it discipline? Teacher evaluations? Parent meetings? Once you identify your triggers, ask yourself what’s really bothering you. Is it how you handled a situation? Is it something you can control? Sometimes you can make a change moving forward. Sometimes you have to let it go. Journaling or tracking your overthinking patterns helps bring awareness and focus.

2. Challenge unhelpful thought patterns.
You’re constantly talking back to your brain. When you think, “I’m not good at discipline,” challenge that. Say instead, “This is a complex situation—I’m going to figure it out.” Instead of “What if I fail?” ask yourself, “What if I succeed?” Remember, no leader is perfect. When negative thoughts arise, talk back, let them go, and focus on improvement.

3. Find clarity through decisive action.
Confidence grows from action. Overthinking often makes decisions more complicated than they are. Simplify. For example, if a student put their hands on another, the consequence is clear. Don’t overcomplicate. Give yourself a time limit—say, two minutes—to decide and move forward. Often, your gut instinct is the best guide.

Remember, overthinking makes leadership harder than it needs to be. Trust your professional experience—even if you’re a new principal, you have valuable expertise. You don’t have to be perfect, just do the best you can in the moment.

I’ve created a free workshop called Stop Doubting Your Decisions that many have found helpful in building confidence and clarity. You’ll find the link in the show notes.

To recap, the three strategies are:

  1. Identify your overthinking triggers,

  2. Challenge negative thoughts,

  3. Take clear, decisive action.

I hope you found this episode helpful. Share it with another leader who might be overthinking. If you love the podcast, please leave a review to help others find it.

Remember—you have the power to shape your life with the mindset you choose. Have a great week, and I’ll see you next time!


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